“Impossible is just a big word thrown around by small men who find it easier to live in the world they’ve been given than to explore the power THEY have to CHANGE it. Impossible is not a fact. It’s an opinion. Impossible is not a declaration. It’s a dare. Impossible is potential. Impossible is temporary. Impossible is nothing!”
– Muhammad Ali
I want to thank Jeff Goins who wrote an amazing article titled, “Stop Saying, It’s Hard,” Because it’s Really Not. Here is the link: https://medium.com/search?q=stop%20saying%20its%20hard
I love this because in my world I hear this day in and day out in the world of alcohol and drug addiction. In the addiction recovery world, there is a belief system that recovery is hard, that being clean is hard, or just being happy is hard. This is just not the case – it’s really not.
I use to hold this belief system as well in a lot of areas of my life. Finding friends, giving a talk, talking to girls, being confident, loving who I was, etc. I use to believe that it was hard to be clean and sober and that belief kept me in relapse mode for a long time. I soon realized the truth, that it was just the idea that it was too hard but I had the power to change this self-made barrier forever.
James Allen, one of my heroes, said it like this….
“A man is powerless to overcome the wrong and unhappy elements in himself only so long as he regards himself as powerless. If to the bad habit is added the thought, “I cannot,” the bad habit will remain. Nothing can be overcome till the thought of powerlessness is uprooted and abolished from the mind.
The great stumbling-block is not the habit itself, it is the belief in the impossibility of overcoming it. How can a man overcome a bad habit so long as he is convinced that it is impossible? How can a man be prevented from overcoming it when he knows that he can, and is determined to do it?
The dominant thought by which man has enslaved himself is the thought, “I cannot overcome my sins.” Bring this thought out into the light, in all its nakedness, and it is seen to be a belief in the power of evil, with its other pole, disbelief in the power of good. For a man to say, or believe, that he cannot rise above wrong-thinking and wrong-doing, is to submit to evil, is to abandon and renounce good.
By such thoughts, such beliefs, man binds himself; by their opposite thoughts, opposite beliefs, he sets himself free. A changed attitude of mind changes the character, the habits, the life. Man is his own deliverer! He has brought about his thraldom; he can bring about his emancipation. All through the ages he has looked and is still looking, for an external deliverer, but he still remains bound.
The Great Deliverer is within; He is the Spirit of Truth; and the Spirit of Truth is the Spirit of Good; and he is in the Spirit of Good who dwells habitually in good thoughts and their effects, [lead to] good actions.”
Man is not bound by any power outside his own thoughts, and from these he can set himself free; and foremost, the enslaving thoughts from which he needs to be delivered are – “I cannot rise,” “I cannot break away from my bad habits,” I cannot alter my nature,” I cannot control and conquer myself,” I cannot cease from sin.
All these “cannots” have no existence in the things to which they submit; they exist only in [the] thought.”
I met with a client this morning who is on his way to court and possible jail time. I asked him how he was feeling? He said I am really nervous. Why? He said that he may go to jail for 4-5 days. Again, I asked why are you nervous? He said that jail will be too hard. How? He said he wasn’t sure. I said that it was just a belief that it would be too hard and he could change it right now if he wanted to. He seemed curious about that and said he was not sure if he could do it. I said, if you go, what would be the worst thing that could happen? He sat there, then I could tell the light turned on. He said I will be fine, that he would be able to do it. I said absolutely! It seems so simple but yet so powerful.
Upon that little world belief, hangs all our sorrows and all our joys. My challenge to you and to myself is for us to stop saying and believe that It’s hard, because it’s really not.
Thank you for reading and have an awesome day.